If you had any doubts, here it is, straight from the “horse’s mouth”
Here’s a passage from H G Tudor’s book, “Red Flag-50 Warning Signs of Narcissistic Seduction”…….a world famous author of over 40 books who also happens to be a diagnosed “Narcissistic Psychopath”…
“Everyone recongises what has happened when they look at it with the benefit of hindsight but when you have been sucked in and spun around so that you no longer know left from right, the very last thought that will cross your mind is that a narcissist has ensnared you. That amazing gold period was an illusion.” (In reference to the wonderful honeymoon, “idealization” phase where the narcissist puts you up on a pedestal and cater to your every need and make you feel like the most loved and luckiest person in the world, until…)
(Next comes the devaluation phase as he refers to here) “Instead you will be subjected to a campaign of abuse. There is no need to call it anything else. Our behavior towards you will be abhorrent and will encompass a vast array of manipulative techniques that we deploy in order to control and abuse you. Emotional, physical, sexual and financial atrocities will be meted out against you. You will not recognise much of it at first, as it will be delivered to you with a smile and the pouring of sugar in your ear. You will be left confused, bereft, and broken. You will lose friendships and family. Your work will suffer. Your health will deteriorate. Your finances will be wrecked and your sanity left hanging by a shred. You will have no comprehension as to why this has all happened to you and why you’ve been chosen because we are such skilled abusers that we make you think it was your fault.” (Doesn’t this just make your hair stand on end?!?)
Well, he sounds like a real nice guy, doesn’t he? I’ll have to remember to never date him. This passage actually describes my marriage to a “T.” I thought my ex-husband wrote this for a minute but then saw it was by HG. Seriously though, this is the kind of stuff they not only think about but do, and like the English psycho author says, “with a smile and the pouring of sugar in your ear.”
The higher level Narc’s (intelligent psychopaths) are extremely good at this type of behavior and tactics. They don’t have the dysregulated and hard to control emotions that get in the way and serve as obstacles, as is the case with the lower level narc’s (sociopaths). These are the “cool cats”, the ones that are emotionally deficient. They either don’t have the emotions or what they do have is very shallow and have a “switch” they can turn it on and off as it suits them. That is the big difference, and their higher intelligence, of course. These creatures have learned how to “mimic” real emotions and the behaviors, facial expressions, postures and body language they need in order to move about freely and undetected in society. They have to in order to blend in. For example, a normal person will not steal because not only do they “know” it’s wrong, but it ‘feels” wrong too. In stark contrast, the narcissistic psychopath also cognitively knows stealing is wrong but are much more likely to do it because not only do they make their own rules as they go along but stealing doesn’t “feel” wrong to them. It doesn’t feel like anything…there’s a void of emotion where “guilt and shame” would be for the normal person. They tend to look at things from a pure “problem solving perspective”, without taking the emotional variables, implications or consequences into consideration at all. Their behavior is predicated on these creature’s pathological need to be in control of their situations and environments, which is driven by their insecurities and short comings. They live in the moment. Neither past nor future matters to them when they are in that moment. It is all that matters to them, screw future consequences because they’re not thinking about them at all, when they are in their moment. Please remember though… no matter how far these people pump their chest and egos out… their insecurities are sticking out much further!
If only the narcissist could understand this, right? Well they most likely will not be able to because they typically lack any kind of self-awareness or insight that would allow them to do so. These creatures are so self-centered and egocentric that they must live in a false reality that is skewed to their favor and only makes sense to them. Their reality is much different than ours and that’s why so many of the things they did, do not make sense to you. In this reality, they are the master of the universe and cannot accept or bare to be anything less. They go through life with this false facade’ and will try to annihilate anyone who attempts to tear it down. It’s always best to steer clear of these real life vampires, they are human wrecking balls that bash and smash their way through our lives.
***KNOWLEDGE IS POWER…ARM YOURSELF***